“Boys will be boys” is a dangerous concept that I see effects many of my male clients, from boyhood through manhood. Masculinity is a social construct, and boys can be raised, by caretakers, communities, and society at large, to do better. Below are some of the ways convictions regarding predisposed masculinity creates harm. 1. …
The beginning of long summer days, getting active with friends, and ice cream cones can lead us back to our most fond childhood memories. Who wasn’t ramped up about, “no school for the Summer!?” While some people have plenty of childhood memories, many cannot come up with more than fuzzy images that drift away upon …
Trauma Healing: Returning to the Time of Tonka Trucks and Troll Dolls Read More »
Disclaimer: I know this doesn’t speak to everyone’s experience, including those adopted at birth or those with extremely volatile early experiences. Please know that I acknowledge & honor this disparity. When we are born, our mother’s body releases ‘love’ hormones & neurotransmitters that intuitively drive her to take care of us. Oxytocin, the primary maternal …
Learning to name and pay attention to your emotions can help you identify what needs healing. First, use a journal, notebook, or smartphone notes to write down which of the feelings below you experienced. On the margin, note if they changed, at what pace, and how obvious they were. If your feelings come from the …
